This is your sign that it’s okay to be more selfish.
When you act out of obligation, you are bringing unnecessary stress, tension, and distortion. Anything that is obligatory may be outside of what it is you are really desiring to experience. So take a half step back and ask yourself, “Is this the experience that I am really desiring to have?”
Stand Up for What You Want
If you come to a clear and distinct “No,” inform those around you that you are actually wanting to do something different with your time.
I know it’s confusing because society has painted selflessness as a virtue and selfishness as a vice.
The reality is that some aspect of every human is vested in whatever they are experiencing. But when you’re doing things out of obligation in order to receive love from others to prove that you have value, you’re actually stepping away from your authentic self. And when you’re out of authenticity, your body, your brain, and your nervous system is interpreting reality as stressful.
Give yourself a little bit of peace of mind because sometimes selfless actions are actually really selfish.
Christopher Lee Maher is a former Navy SEAL who endured intense amounts of physical, mental, and emotional stress as a child and during and after his military career. He has taught himself how to free his energy, body, mind and emotions from pain by developing the emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual aspects of being. Christopher studied Traditional Chinese Medical Practices at the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine and at Yo San University. He then continued his studies at The Universal Healing Tao System. Christopher is a student of Grand Master Mantak Chia at the Universal Tao Master School in Chiang Mai, Thailand. He is currently pursuing his Master’s and Doctorate degrees in Traditional Chinese Medicine.