{"id":17781,"date":"2021-02-03T20:55:12","date_gmt":"2021-02-04T01:55:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisatener.local\/?p=17781"},"modified":"2024-09-30T08:56:21","modified_gmt":"2024-09-30T12:56:21","slug":"surprise-despite-intentions-this-post-is-not-what-i-set-out-to-write","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/2021\/02\/surprise-despite-intentions-this-post-is-not-what-i-set-out-to-write\/","title":{"rendered":"Surprise! Despite Intentions, This Post is Not What I Set Out to Write&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Way back in December 2020, I started writing a post about ditching New Years&#8217; Resolutions and what to do instead (setting intention). That was before I ended up in the hospital and even my intentions, such as a wildly successful book launch, got hit by a tidal wave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-17794\" width=\"263\" height=\"351\" srcset=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-112x150.jpg 112w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa-1536x2048.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/lisa.jpg 1865w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 263px) 100vw, 263px\" \/><figcaption>Around the time I started this post &#8212; seems like ages ago now!<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how the original post began&#8230;still fitting, and stay with me: I know that resolution month is over&#8230;and that&#8217;s where the surprise comes in&#8211;and I promise it relates to writing a book!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-discovering-my-grammar-school-diary\">Discovering My Grammar School Diary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A decade ago I found my old diary from elementary school. It included six or seven years of New Years&#8217; Resolutions. And you know what shocked me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The same darn resolutions every year. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sure, by sixth grade I could spell &#8220;biting&#8221; rather than &#8220;bitting.&#8221; But every year my list contained the top three:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Stop biting my nails.<\/li><li>Be kinder to my siblings.<\/li><li>Control my temper! (Actually, many years, all my resolutions contained multiple exclamation points; I hadn&#8217;t yet learned the rules of writing from Frank Conroy and Strunk and White.)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Talk about &#8220;shoulding&#8221; on myself. And setting myself up for failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>New Years&#8217; resolutions rarely work. So, ditch &#8217;em.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-to-do-instead-set-intentions\">What to do instead: Set Intentions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Try setting intentions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you intend, you invite in possibility, rather than resist your &#8220;bad habits&#8221; and judge yourself. It&#8217;s a different energy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In fact, intentions can be fun and playful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can intend more fun in your life. You can intend to notice the positives. You can&#8217;t fail at intentions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As you may know, I love to journal&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>That&#8217;s where the post ended. I was probably going to write, &#8220;So I&#8217;m thinking of  &#8216;Enjoy journaling&#8217; as my intention&#8221; but I&#8217;m not sure, so feel free to fill in whatever you think I was going to say!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-before-intention\">Before Intention<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>After the hospital, I&#8217;m still drawn to the idea of intentions, but I also realize that there&#8217;s something even more important before intentions come into play&#8230;Silence. Listening. Being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-17795\" width=\"376\" height=\"282\" srcset=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-150x113.jpg 150w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-2048x1536.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sophie-contemplating-702x526.jpg 702w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 376px) 100vw, 376px\" \/><figcaption>Our Labradoodle Sophie, contemplating with me.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>And  after setting an intention, more time for silence, listening, being. <a href=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/2014\/04\/how-to-i-make-my-writing-more-creative-fun-playful\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Stillness<\/a>. Letting the inner voice guide one&#8217;s actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With my energy still going into healing, I spend a lot of time on the couch. And sleeping. And recording my dreams from the previous night&#8217;s sleep, looking for the layered meanings and messages I&#8217;m sending to my waking self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-in-the-stillness\">In the Stillness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-17796\" width=\"433\" height=\"325\" srcset=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-150x113.jpg 150w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-2048x1536.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/feb-1-snowstorm-702x526.jpg 702w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 433px) 100vw, 433px\" \/><figcaption>The view of today&#8217;s snow. My camera doesn&#8217;t quite show the white snow on the branches but it&#8217;s there!<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I look out our living room window at the new view (we pruned our out-of-control forsythia and the bushes in front of our porch and now, in the winter at least, we see a lot of more of  the expansive winter berry bush with its dark branches and bright red berries, and, beyond that bush and a border of green yews, patches of the wintery ice-blue of Narragansett Bay).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Today, it&#8217;s especially magical with the snow falling and forming a bright contrast on the stark, branchy trees.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In my dream-work, I&#8217;ve set intentions about healing. Now, I listen for guidance and clarity. And I let that be enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Work waits. My book launch waits without a date. I&#8217;m clearing space for life to show up and teach me what it&#8217;s asking of me right now. It feels strange. Yes. It requires something new of me.  Sometimes it feels scary, but it also feels like a new beginning. And new beginnings need space to form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-it-s-not-that-different-with-writing-a-book\">It&#8217;s Not That Different with Writing a Book<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>At the beginning of my <a href=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/book\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Bring Your Book to Life(R) Program<\/a>, I invite participants to create a vision statement for their book. A setting of intention, of sorts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/lisa-rhody-petals-smile.jpg\" alt=\"meditating, silence\" class=\"wp-image-14109\" width=\"174\" height=\"232\" srcset=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/lisa-rhody-petals-smile.jpg 544w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/lisa-rhody-petals-smile-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/lisa-rhody-petals-smile-112x150.jpg 112w, https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/lisa-rhody-petals-smile-100x133.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 174px) 100vw, 174px\" \/><figcaption>Contemplation in nature is easiest for me when it&#8217;s warm!<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>And now, with my new insights, I think I will add a step before creating a vision: time first for  quiet contemplation\u2014<a href=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/2009\/10\/the-muse-loves-nature\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">walks in nature<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/how-to-write-a-book.com\/meditation-and-mindfulness-in-writing-mara-m-zimmerman\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">meditation<\/a>, just sitting still. And, then, set your intention and create your <a href=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/2017\/11\/whats-big-picture-vision-writing-book\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">vision<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;ve already created a vision statement and you&#8217;re already working on your book, that&#8217;s okay. Take a step back every once in a while; be in the stillness, the field of possibilities. Perhaps even start your writing practice with the silence. Breathe. Be. Wait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Way back in December 2020, I started writing a post about ditching New Years&#8217; Resolutions and what to do instead (setting intention). That was before I ended up in the hospital and even my intentions, such as a wildly successful book launch, got hit by a tidal wave. Here&#8217;s how the original post began&#8230;still fitting,&#8230;<a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/2021\/02\/surprise-despite-intentions-this-post-is-not-what-i-set-out-to-write\/\"><em>&nbsp; Read more<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1678],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-17781","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-how-to-write-a-book","7":"entry"},"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17781","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17781"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17781\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":278787,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17781\/revisions\/278787"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17781"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17781"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jodieburdette.net\/lisatener\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17781"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}